You are absolutely in love with your husband but with kids and work have you ever wondered where the sparks have gone? There is no better cure for that, than putting a little more time and attention into your man. Here are some ideas that will get the sparks flying again!
10 Ways to make him feel loved:
- Get Flirty:
Think about how you acted when you started dating or even better, first married. Sitting on his lap, snuggle close, make a kissy face from across the room, hold hands, whisper something sweet or sexy in his ear, put your hand in his back pocket, make out when the kids aren’t looking, or better yet put a movie on for the kids and sneak upstairs. I guarantee a little flirting will make him feel loved and help you remember more and more why you are crazy about him.
- Send Him Something at Work:
Who doesn’t love getting surprises? I know I do. I recently sent my husband a 2 quart jar of jelly bellies with a little love note to tell him how much a I loved him and was grateful for him. He said he munched on those for weeks and read the note over and over each time he got more candy. How sweet is that!?!
- His Dream Date:
What does he love to do? I know he loves to be with you, but what is something he might hesitate asking you to do because it might not be your thing? For our anniversary last year we did a whole list of things during our weekend stay-cation that we both wanted to do but hadn’t done. Things that we both liked and things he liked and I liked. We went to an antique store (me) and we went to a shooting range (him). It was something he wanted to do and it turned out to be so fun. Plus, I never would have known I was such a sharp shooter. Haha.
- Write Down your Favorite Memories Together:
Buy little note-book or type up a Memory journal for all your special moments together. I made a book for my husband as a gift at our most recent anniversary. I remembered when we were first dating I had kept little notes on each day of my work calendar from the day we met until we had gotten married. So, for the book I typed up every little detail I could remember about each date. It was so much fun. I was laughing when I was recalling how I accidentally lost my grip on his rope when we were rock climbing. Oops! And totally crying when I recalled the night he proposed in a secluded forest with the stars shining through the trees while we danced to “Our song”. Reading about those special times together on our 13th anniversary was really beautiful.
- Give Him a Heart Attack:
Get one or more of his co-workers involved to get him away from his work space. Attack his office with heart of all colors everywhere and leave treats and goodies for him. Make a “Heart Attack” sign. I did this with my kids and they were hilarious. Hiding hearts in drawers, under the chair, on the keyboard, etc… They loved sneaking around!
- Pick Him up for a Lunch Date:
How often do you get to spend time together during the day? Look up some good restaurant choices near his work and schedule a lunch date with him. Changing things up is fun and breaks you out of the normal routine. It might surprise you how excited you will be to get out during the day together.
- Take a Stroll Down Memory Lane:
Go back to the place where you created some of your earliest memories together. It is so much fun to talk about how silly and nervous you were when you kissed for the first time. This can be fun to do with your kids. I know my kids absolutely love hearing the details of when mom and dad first met, where we got married, and all the fun stories in between. They will love seeing mom and dad light up as they share their special memories.
- Love Notes:
Recently during the packing for our upcoming move, I found a pile of over a hundred little love notes I had written him over the years. HE KEPT THEM! My heart almost burst. He kept the notes I would write, or put on his lunch container before he left for work. The pile included dozens of notes the kids and I would write and sneak in his shirt pockets when he packed his suitcase for a business trip. He kept them all. They must have meant a great deal to him, to have kept them all these years.
- Plan a Stay-cation:
Sometimes Mom and Dad just need a little time away to forget that they are parents, and have jobs, and remember that they are young and in love. There are tons of great prices for resorts on Groupon. Find one with a swimming pool or water park or fancy restaurant included in the deal. Get that much-needed break and time to reconnect.
- Set up a Romantic Night:
Send him a special invite to tell him where to meet you and what to wear. This could be an at home date with desert by candlelight and blanket fort ;), or a night on the town where you dress up and go to a romantic restaurant and stroll under the stars. Surprise him with taking care of the babysitting arrangements and plan something you will both love.
No matter what you do, remember to never put off saying the words that matter most. And nothing says “I love you” like time together. So invest in your marriage and keep that flame burning. ♥
What are some of YOUR favorite ways to make him feel loved?!