This month's mighty mom is introduced by her niece, Aniva Ritchie:
Meet Farina Sala McCarthy-Stonex. She is my Aunty and in many ways my mother.
Although I was blessed with a very caring and loving mother I was also blessed to have Aunty Farina throughout my whole life, even now, with children and grandchildren of my own she offers me the kind of love, support, and guidance only a mother can…. Unconditional, unwavering, and reassuring. To describe her a little more let me quote her youngest daughter Sala:
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“This is my mum she is an amazing and wonderful woman. She is beautiful, kind, independent, strong, loving. The Best of the Best. Second to none. The number one Mum in the world…. I love her.”
Being an older full-time working, single parent with not one, but TWO TEENAGE DAUGHTERS her life is filled with excitement and stress! But, she still takes the time out of her busy day to have lunch with us after school, take us on our errands with no complaints, and get us whatever we need, whenever we need it. She loves us so much and we love her too….”
The youngest and only girl of nine children that grew to adulthood. Aunty Farina is my father’s sister. I was named after her and oft-times would be teased about being her favorite because of it.
The truth is she really had no favorites. She dedicated much of her life to bettering herself through obtaining an education, serving a church mission, and working as a school guidance counselor and school principal on various locations of the Navajo Indian reservation and later on in Tuba City, Arizona. The desire to marry and have children of her own was always part of her plan but for many years this never happened. Soon her nieces and nephews were having children of their own. She continued to play a big part in my life when I eventually married and had children. Never faltering or wavering Aunty Farina reached out and took in young individuals whose lives were void of any kind of parental figure or parents who had addictions so severe they would try to sell their children in hopes of getting a quick fix. She gave of herself unconditionally, loving, caring and always teaching the importance of service, gratitude and forgiveness.
In her forties Aunty Farina returned home to New Zealand to care for her ailing mother. It was during this time that she met and married her husband, Robert Stonex. Aunty would share with me how they would seek the Lord in prayer asking for children of their own to bless their lives. She would joke and say… “Hon. Sometimes while Uncle Robert was on one side of the bed praying for children I’d be on the other side saying, Dear Lord I’m too old for children I don’t know if I can do it.” She finally decided Uncle Robert would have to do most of the chasing and child raising once the children came since he was younger than her.
Married for almost five years, Aunty was in her early fifties and working as a Counselor for the LDS Church Family Services. They adopted two beautiful girls Ema and then not long after Sala.
Aunty had decided to try and stay home with their daughters. Uncle Robert went to work as a Taxi driver. Four years later I received a call late one night from Aunty Farina informing me that Uncle Robert had fallen asleep at the wheel and crashed into a tree. He was killed instantly.
As devastating as this was to everyone and to think that after waiting so long for her companion he was taken so soon Aunty Farina embraced the knowledge of knowing that some day they would be reunited. She often jokes that when that day comes she is going to give Uncle Robert an ear full about leaving her alone to raise their two daughters alone.
Aunty Farina took her little family, Ema about 5yrs, Sala 3yrs and moved back to America where she found employment in Tuba city, Arizona doing the same line of work as she did prior to having her children. During her time here Aunty was encircled with a very strong support group. When confronted with insecurities Aunty Farina would dig deep always exercising faith and belief that she was not alone.
Now in her Sixties, Aunty Farina resides in Hawaii. She is currently a Counselor at BYU-HC. Ema has just graduated from High School and Sala is a sophomore. Both girls emulate the same character traits as their mother.
Aunty Farina continues to reach out to other children. This is where she is happiest. This is where she makes the biggest difference and blesses the lives of others only in the way a mother truly can.
THANK YOU FOR BEING A GREAT SOURCE OF STRENGTH AND FOR INSPIRING THOSE AROUND YOU!
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