If you were to ask me the difference between my relationship with my husband today verses when we were dating, I would tell you the level of flirtation between the two of us has gone way down. That's no bueno. No matter how long you've been married, I totally believe that flirting is 100 percent acceptable and so good for your relationship! There's always room to strengthen the relationship between your hubby and you, so here are five easy-to-do ideas:
Get Your Flirt Back On
1. Sticky notes: Umm, is anyone else as addicted to sticky notes as I am?! These are the perfect vehicle for leaving a little love note for him (or two or three) and placing them in spots he won't see immediately. (Stuffed inside one of his socks in his sock drawer, on his can of shaving cream, on the carton of milk, in his pants pocket, or stuck inside his wallet.) I love spying on my husband while he is putting his socks on and waiting for him to discover the sticky note – I feel slightly like a creeper, but it always makes me giggle to watch his face. 10 points for flirting! And one thought on what you write on the sticky note: what is he going to want to read? Think about what is going to make him smile, laugh, or maybe even blush(!) and write that!
2. Date night at home (see my 50 Fun & Affordable Date Nights at Home): Babysitters are expensive and sometimes hard to find, but that doesn't mean you can't have a date night at home! I know Pinterest is saturated with stay-at-home date ideas, but have you really done one? My husband and I have done this quite a few times and it really does work. Either pick some dinner up when you're out running errands or fix his favorite dinner, but save it for after you've fed the kids and put them to bed, and then pull out the meal saved for you guys, light a few candles, turn on some mood music, and introduce the evening to him. He'll be surprised and so excited! It's simple, free, and doing exactly what he wants: being with you. You could do dinner and a movie on the floor, dinner and dancing, or treats and games! There's a lot to be said for a few minutes of planning to make this really come together well and make it feel like you guys are “getting out.” (Our favorite is grabbing a Little Caesars pizza, making a quick salad, and watching a movie we've been saving while cuddling on the couch.) Simple, but so good to get back to just you two.
3. Surprises in the car: This is one of my favorites to do! When I know I'll be close to his work, I'll grab a treat or write out a note and sneak it into his car so when he gets in the car to come home, he sees the surprise and knows I've been there! Wouldn't that make you so happy to see that? Sometimes I'll write out a “parking ticket” and stick it on his windshield. “You're in violation of stealing my heart and you're going to have to pay…” I'll leave it up to you to decide what he's going to have to pay, but get creative! I remember when my husband came home the day I left a parking ticket on his windshield – he said he was so nervous when he saw it, but then he laughed out loud when he saw my handwriting and what he needed to pay for the violation. (Other ideas for what to leave in his car: his favorite snack, a date basket for that night, a piece of lingerie and a note, or a picture your kids drew for him.)
4. Framed love: I don't know if I know a guy who doesn't love to be praised by his wife. Am I right? Do your husbands love hearing just how great they are from you? How well they provide for their family? How handsome they are? It does so much for them. So, right when we got married, I grabbed an empty picture frame and stuck a piece of white paper inside and used a whiteboard marker to write reasons I love him, or reasons he is amazing. I don't do it everyday, in fact I put it away for a few weeks and then pull it out again so it doesn't get mundane. Just like the sticky notes, I'll put the picture frame somewhere different each time I write on it. You could branch out and write things that first attracted you to him, when you first knew you were in love with him, a moment you both made an amazing memory together: “Remember when we…”, or reasons you're proud of him. (Reasons you're proud of him is my husband's favorite!)
5. Holiday countdown: I only just recently started doing this one but it was a big success! Think of the last time you did a 12 Days of Christmas for someone, and just apply that to your husband and with the theme of love! You're making small notes and gifts for him that apply to the upcoming holiday, and using those to countdown to the holiday. For Valentine's Day I did a “14 Days of Love” countdown and each day I gave him a little gift or treat with a corresponding note. “You're soda great!” that is attached to a bottle of their favorite soda, “Honey comb your hair cause we've got a date tonight!” attached to a box of Honeycomb cereal. You get the idea, right? You can do this with just about every holiday, and turn it into a reason to celebrate your love for him!
What are YOUR ideas for flirting with your husband?