I’ve just reached that crazy stage of mass destruction with my almost-2-year old, almost every second he’s awake. Today it was water EVERYWHERE (of which I later learned was retrieved from the toilet by the cupfuls), Kitchen drawers and cupboards emptied (On repeat), messes in each room (which take him approximately 2.5 seconds to create), and constant rescue efforts to save his life (hot pan, trying to draw himself a scalding bath while I take a potty break, and multiple dashes out the front door, followed by some trampled flower beds).
Let’s just say things amplified when he learned how to open all the doors.
The point I want to make is,
It’s Okay If You Don’t Like Being a Mom Everyday.
It doesn’t make you any less of a mom, in fact in makes you a REAL one.
Right now, I end most days wondering if I accomplished anything at all, which is hard on a human being! We were created to grow, progress, and accomplish….it’s normal to desire these things.
With kid #1, I would have these days and feel incredibly guilty by the end. “Why don’t I love this? Why do I feel grumpy? Am I a bad mom?” I would then stuff it deep and smile sweet, feeling like I must be abnormal.
With kid #3, I have enough experience to say to myself, “This is just a phase.” I also have enough experience to know that this phase will pass quickly, though the days may sometimes feel slow.
And although I may feel like I’m not accomplishing as much, my toddler is growing and progressing at an impressive rate, learning all kinds of new skills, which is quite entertaining to witness.
So many joyful things in life take a lot of hard work, and motherhood might just be one of the hardest. I try to remind myself, “It’s okay if this is hard and some days close to miserable. It’s all just part of the beautiful package.” It’s when I give myself some love and credit, that I open myself to the daily beauties. Because even in the chaos, there are so many funny, cute and inspiring moments.
Kid #1 and #2 have taught me not to wish this stage away, because as wild as my toddler is, there’s nothing in the world that beats his snuggles at the end of the day.
It’s the one thing that keeps me praying to stay in this stage just a little bit longer.
Speaking of snuggles….it’s also okay if you celebrate when they fall asleep. I believe God purposely created children to need more sleep, knowing that we need a chance to recoup and be an adult for a while.
So go adult….and breathe in a new day. The best is yet to come.