We have decided to highlight an extraordinary mom each month as a way to inspire and uplift, and have chosen Allison Mitton as January’s Mighty Mom! I have had the honor of knowing Allison over the last two years of my life and was also blessed to get to know each of her amazing and talented children. I must say that the Mitton family are a rare bunch! Despite different trials that they have, they are of the most happy, inspiring and loving people that I know. You can’t know them without having your life touched. I am especially touched by the bond that this family has, and how much they love to just spend time with each other. They truly have a glimpse of the most important things in life.
Now on to more about Allison…
I asked her to share a little about her life and answer the following questions:
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As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to be a mom. I did my undergraduate at BYU in art history, but didn’t really plan to work… I thought my vocation would be to be a mother. When I didn’t find a spouse right away, however, I ended up getting an MBA. There I met my husband, and we got married when I was almost 31. It took us a few years to get pregnant — that was stressful to me. I just wanted to be a mom! My husband started a Ph.D. program at MIT in Boston and there we found a good fertility doctor.
I ended up pregnant with triplets! We were so excited, but knew there were lots of risks involved. Despite the fact that I had a very pleasant pregnancy, my kids were born at 27 weeks… two boys and a girl. They were each about 2 lbs. and all are miracles!
As a result of their prematurity, my sons, Alex and McKay, have cerebral palsy. They are unable to walk or talk or care for themselves and they have some health problems. They are very smart and have vivid personalities — they communicate with their facial expressions and so forth. My daughter Abby totally forgot she was a preemie right away and has not had any problems. She is wonderful with and to her brothers and despite our challenges we have a very happy family.
My job as a mother is different in some ways than other moms as I have two 15-year old boys who are totally dependent on others for their care, but I still feel like I’m a regular mom in most ways.
I love being a mom! It has fulfilled all my dreams! It is really hard, though. We have experienced such a range of emotion as our children have been through many tough illnesses and surgeries. It is sometimes overwhelming but I try to be patient and trust in my Heavenly Father who, I know, loves them even more than I do. Alex and McKay have to experience trials and grow and learn in different ways than others do.
As they have all grown and matured they just amaze me. McKay provides the impetus for fun in our family. He is all boy and we know that if he has fun we will all have fun. He wakes up laughing most days and is always happy. He loves ice cream and chocolate and any outdoor activity we can manage to do. He loves skiing, swimming, hanging out at any beach, or just going outside in our backyard and listening to music (current favorites: Jack Johnson, Michael Buble, Imagine Dragons). He enjoys life more than anyone I know.
Abby is wonderful! She is really funny and keeps our family on the laughing track with her wry, dry wit. She is helpful all the time and is always willing to take care of her brothers. She loves to read, she is an artist, and has a beautiful singing voice. she also loves Harry Potter, Downton Abbey and Psych. We have always thought that she is our sunshine.
Alex is pure goodness. He is always so sweet. He loves to watch TV — especially The Price is Right — and he loves music, too. He is big Mormon Tabernacle Choir fan and he loves Ryan Shupe, Peter Breinholt and stuff like that. He has a great sense of humor and is happy to do just about anything that McKay does, but he’s not quite as adventurous.
Our family loves to hang out together — we like to watch movies and read books and listen to music and go on vacations — our favorite vacations are to Disneyland, and we loved our trip to Hawaii last spring. We also love the Oregon coast.
I think the hardest part about being a mom is watching how fast my kids are growing up! But another very hard thing is that there is no instruction manual…. I feel like I’m always trying to guess what is the right thing to do. It’s also very tiring. Luckily, my husband has always been the one to get up in the night, but with the work it is to care for the boys during the day, I am frequently tired. Also, the world doesn’t give much positive feedback to stay-at-home moms, and sometimes that feels unfair. But I know that taking care of my family is the most important thing that I can do.
My advice to a mom who is having a hard day would be to try to remember how fast it will all seem to go by eventually. And I would encourage any young mom to prioritize and not to expect too much of herself. The seasons of our lives allow us to accomplish different things at different times. Just figure out what you are able to do and don’t worry too much about the rest. I like to have a neat home, but when my kids were finally in 1st grade for all day together, I walked past the bedrooms one day and thought, “Hey, maybe I could start making the beds.” I had completely forgotten that was even an option for 6 years! Don’t be too hard on yourself.
To learn more about Allison and her family, check out their family blog: squarefamilyroundworld.