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November 4, 2018 By Tina M 7 Comments This post may contain affiliate links. Read my disclosure policy here.

Where Are You Christmas? Finding Christmas Magic in a World Full of STUFF

I read an article the other day that made me rethink how I'm doing Christmas this year. But before I give some fun ideas, Here's some stats I read that might shock you (and if not, hopefully it will inspire you to do something different this year).

  • The average 10-year-old owns 238 toys but plays with just 12 daily
  • The average American family spends $1,700 on clothes each year, but also throws away 65 lbs of clothing each year.
  • Many homes have more TV's than people (and they run on average for 8 hrs-more than 1/3 of our day)
  • We consume twice as much stuff as we did 50 years ago
  • Shopping malls outnumber high schools
  • Americans spend $1.2 trillion annually on things they do not need
  • There are 300,000 items in the average American home
  • Our homes are increasing in size, while family size decreases.

There are many studies out there that prove things don't make us happy, and there are many stories of those who have purged their home of “stuff” and found greater happiness and freedom. But I don't need to be convinced, I already know better (and last year convinced me to make a change).

I know better because grew up with a single mom trying to make ends meet, where finances were always tight and almost every single year my mom sat us down and told us not to expect much for Christmas.

And yet Christmas is my favorite thing EVER. I have zero memories of a sad Christmas–quite the opposite in fact.


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I have many memories of my mom taking us caroling on Christmas morning to a retirement center, or a treatment center for the handicapped.  Those moments gave me a deep and tender love for the elderly and the handicapped. I have memories of sleeping under the Christmas tree and the magic that the lights on the tree represented. Those moments gave me fun memories with my siblings and a love for family traditions. I actually have zero memories of ever believing in Santa, and yet….Christmas is still the most magical time in my heart.

How to create Christmas magic without "STUFF"

I have memories of waking up on Christmas morning not expecting any gifts or presents, only to end up thoroughly surprised and hearing my mom tell me stories of neighbors and friends that insisted on reaching out to our family in kindness. I remember my mom saying “I could tell you that Santa brought it, but I want you to know the real story, and the love behind these gifts. There are so many kind people in this world.”

One of my favorite memories was the afternoon I walked into my house and found my mom sobbing. When I asked her what was wrong, she told me that particular year she had spent time on her knees praying for a way to make the holidays memorable for us kids when she had bills she couldn't pay and food she couldn't buy. She then told me of the Christmas ham that was doorbell ditched on our front door and the cash that helped pay some bills. I remember seeing my mom's tears of gratitude and thinking to myself, “I want to do that for someone someday. That's what Christmas is all about.”

My memories prove to me that all the shopping and the gifts and the pretty little gadgets do NOT make a happy Christmas.

And so for quite a few years, as Christmas has turned to “X-mas” and Stores have started stocking the shelves in OCTOBER with trinkets and gadgets that NONE of us really need, I have found myself asking, “WHERE ARE YOU CHRISTMAS???”

And now you can sing the rest……Why can't I find you? Why have you gone away?

There are a lot of blog posts out there that hate on Christmas or bash on Elf on the Shelf, and declare that gift-giving should be totally done away with, or maybe some that even believe Santa should be fired. This isn't one of those blog posts.

We all have our various ways of doing things that bring us joy, and we should all support each other's individual way of celebrating the holidays. I SIMPLY ASK THAT WE MINIMIZE ALL THE STUFF.

 

My purpose behind this blog post is to make one request to the world (or the mom or grandma or aunt or friend who may be reading this). Let's BRING BACK CHRISTMAS!  Whatever you do this season, ask yourself this question: “What's good, what's better and what's best?” What might bring regret, and what might bring lasting memories?

This is my 5th Christmas with kids and I'm just now realizing that I've been doing it all wrong. This year I have vowed for a change.

So if you too, want to take the holidays to the next level and make them even more magical, here are a few ideas.

10 Ways to Make the Holidays More Meaningful

Do Less (and make it the best EVER)

For me personally, this means not doing Elf on the Shelf. I think it's a really great idea, and I think my family would LOVE doing it, but when I asked myself “is there something that could be better or even BEST?” I decided on the kindness elves. Similar fun, similar Christmas magic, but with a charitable focus, family bonding, and hopefully a lasting lesson and tradition that my children will remember for a lifetime. The elections alone this year have motivated me to teach my children how to be kind and to make it an important part of our Christmas this year.

kindness-elves: A memorable way to celebrate Christmas this year

Another thing I love is the idea of Advent calendars. But when I thought “how could this be better?” I decided to count down to Christmas, but in a way that puts the focus back on Christ: Adding straw to the baby manger with daily acts of kindness. By the time Christmas is here, we have built a soft bed (through our kind acts) for baby Jesus. Read more about this idea here.

straw-in-the-manger Christmas Kindness Idea

Give MEMORIES instead of GIFTS

We live in a world full of distractions and family time is becoming so limited. If you give a gift, whether it be to your kids, or your husband or another family–try to think of a way to give them a memory instead of a THING. It will be so much more thoughtful and memorable. Here is a list of 50 Ways to Give Memories Instead of Gifts. My husband and I had the idea one year to only give date nights for Christmas. You can see what we came up with in my date nights for a year post. You can inspire others to make Christmas different this year too! If they ask the famous question, “what do you want for Christmas this year?” Respond with, “memories! Experiences! Good times with my family!”

Christmas became 100 times better when we started giving memories instead of things. It's a win-win for everyone and it's still really fun!

Give a Family Vacation

Another idea is to give a vacation for Christmas. It doesn't have to be expensive, but time away as a family can be one of the best things you can give, and kids remember it forever. Not only do they remember it forever, but instead of becoming disinterested in their Christmas present days later (like they would a toy), the excitement only keeps building until you leave on the vacation. If you decide to go this route, here is a fun Christmas Treasure Map that you can use Christmas morning that leads the kids on a fun scavenger hunt until they find out what the surprise is.

The White Stocking

The white stocking is a fun tradition for remembering Christ on Christmas Eve.

white stocking

But instead, I think I've done more harm than good. Instead, we've increased our clutter, inherited toys that never get played with, and created children that think that when they get bored with something that we will just get something “new” to replace it. Last Christmas I did trade for a lot of my kid's gifts and thought that because I wasn't spending very much, that it was okay to spoil them with some fun toys. But even with my penny-pinching, I watched them open their one-too-many gifts and felt embarrassed and a little bit ashamed.

4 Gifts: Something You Want, Something You Need, Something to Wear and Something to Read

My neighbor down the street gives these 4 gifts to her kids for Christmas and nothing else. They also head for Mexico when school gets out and they stay their through the holidays to escape the materialism and spend time together as a family. I LOVE their tradition. And I love hearing their stories when they get back. They do service projects and give toys to kids that have nothing. Best Christmas Idea EVER.Great way to avoid giving your kids to much at Christmas

Avoid “TRENDY” Toys

If you do buy your kids toys, I try to avoid the “trendy” toys that make an appearance every year. They are the toys that kids think they can't live without because the commercials trained them to think that way, but they are also the toys that either get broken or forgotten within days. Although the new gadgets can seem fun and exciting, your best bet is to stick with Toys that Kids Actually play with that have been popular for decades.

 

What ideas DO YOU HAVE for a more magical Christmas this year???

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Tina M

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I'm six-foot tall mother of three and I'm enjoying the view! I'm currently fighting a battle with Lyme disease and am determined to come out victorious. I enjoy warm summer rain, peanut butter everything, having dance parties with my husband and kids, natural remedies and healthy living. Most days I'm just looking for another excuse to avoid the piles of laundry.
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I'm six-foot tall mother of three and I'm enjoying the view! I'm currently fighting a battle with Lyme disease and am determined to come out victorious. I enjoy warm summer rain, peanut butter everything, having dance parties with my husband and kids, natural remedies and healthy living. Most days I'm just looking for another excuse to avoid the piles of laundry.

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Comments

  1. Teri says

    December 5, 2016 at 7:45 pm

    What a wonderful article! Thanks for these ideas!!

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  2. Rachael Martinez says

    December 8, 2016 at 8:17 am

    I LOVE this! I have a 3 month old and her Daddy and I have been in lots of major discussion about how we want to celebrate Christmas in a way that won’t spoil her, but still make it magical. I am so glad I found your post. I started a tradition with my niece and nephews 3 years ago, which we also did this year with my husband’s nieces and nephews. We call it Giving Day! We pick out projects aimed at their skill level (usually from pinterest.. lol) for each child to make a gift for each other. I set up different stations in the house… so they can’t peek and we help each child make their gifts for their siblings. They are always so excited to see their sibling open the gift they made them…. we try to make the Giving more important than the receiving.

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    • Rachael Martinez says

      December 8, 2016 at 8:18 am

      Oh! I didn’t even mention that I will be using all your ideas as my little angel gets older ????

  3. sjmullen says

    August 19, 2018 at 10:40 pm

    Reading your article took me back to my childhood memories and the true joy I felt while Christmas’s caroling with my little church friends at nursing homes and joining neighbors as we would go door to door singing old fashion Christmas songs. Oh, I could on and on. It wasn’t all about the presents. I am so grateful my mother made sure we experienced the true magic of Christmas. Thanks so much for sharing!

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  4. Shenoa says

    September 9, 2018 at 9:09 pm

    Thank you for your thoughts……. sounds a lot like our family growing up!
    Breaking out of the materialistic nature of the season would be wonderful- definately found your blog helpful!
    Blessings to you and your family.

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  5. Kim @ Homesteader's Heart says

    October 4, 2018 at 2:58 pm

    Great article!! I’m all about making the memories! Kids will forget about the dated toy but memories last forever. Also as I was reading your about you at the end I was like, wait a minute, I could have written that. LOL! I’m a six foot tall mother of 3 too!!
    Have a wonderful day!
    Kim

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  6. Heather says

    December 27, 2019 at 10:36 am

    Thank you for this post! I absolutely agree with this and am excited to use your ideas next year!

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